In what ranks as one of the "toughest" interviews of my life, Kelly Durrett, was nice enough to give me a call to talk about The Do It For Durrett concert/auction as well as her life since her husband, Richard, died on June 17, 2014.
Richard was a well-known voice and writer of ESPNDallas.com as well as the Dallas Morning News who covered just about every sport if it came through town.
Kelly recently returned to her job as an elementary school teacher. She has a son Owen (5), and a daughter, Alice (3). She is due with the couple's third child, expected to arrive in early January.
She and her kids were in Fort Worth on Monday for a service honoring Richard at his alma mater, TCU, as well as the benefit at Billy Bob's.
I thank her for her candor.
How are you? We are OK. This whole weekend has been a whirlwind with everybody coming in. The service at TCU was nice and quiet and calm. It was nice to hear stories about Richard from the people who knew him best when he was starting.
Are you able to get into a routine? By the end of August we needed a routine and structure again. It's been an adjustment of getting up and going out the door. It's all strange starting a day without Richard.
We had all of these plans of how the first day of kindergarten for (Owen) was going to be.
You don't want to spend the whole day sad that Richard is not here for the first day because it's about Owen.
The kids are good about it. They can't get sad or serious for very long. They have kept me up and things continue. They are hungry, cranky, happy or sad like all 5 and 3 year olds are.
This is an awful subject, but is there a way to approach you that is better than others? Yes, I do love it when people and acknowledge it or share stories or memories. I can't get tired of hearing stories about him. Just saying something.
There are times when I don't want to talk about it, too, but I need time to share memories and thoughts and for people to give me a hug. Everyone has been so strong and supportive. The Rangers community. The TCU community. The Little League community. They have been mowing our lawn; it's little things like that that make a difference.
I don't think Richard had any idea how many people he touched. He always thought he had to do more. He would have been amazed by this.
Has it hit you why this happened? No. I think that in terms of this is part of the plan - I don't know if I buy into that. I don't think this is God's plan, but I do think it's God's plan to work with the community to help me and our family. I think God is grieving with us and God brings us together. And He helps us find our way forward. That's what I see.
And my faith in humanity is ... it's just been incredible what people have done for us.
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